Malawi Journal – Day 16

February 23 – Day 16

Today is the funeral of the neighbor, a family member. Mbwenu and Wanangwa are busy with the preparations for the funeral. The women cook for a lot of people. My understanding is that it is mostly those from far away not the neighbors. People come from all over when someone dies. If they are in South Africa they wire money to help with the funeral. Mbwenu will be the master of ceremonies so he goes and buys food and receives the money which is being wired for the family.

Whenever we have been out and about and there is a funeral a collection is made from relatives, neighbors, and friends. When I was shopping someone came around and asked for donations. On this occasion, they wrote the names down. The money helps pay funeral costs and anything left is given to the family.

Esther and I busy ourselves with washing dishes and doing laundry. We sweep and mop the living room and porch.

There are a lot of kids as usual. We entertain them by drawing, singing, and swinging them until I got dizzy.

Esther and I made no-bake cookies for tomorrow. These are easy to do here because we can find the ingredients and we can make them without an oven. Next, we cook lunch: skillet biscuits, fried eggs, and sliced tomatoes.

Hungry kids stayed all day. The family does not usually feed all the neighbor kids so I didn’t either. I did feel comfortable giving them snacks that I had bought. After lunch, I washed the dishes outside as usual.

As I was washing dishes the funeral procession started. Many people had walked 15-20 kilometers to get here. There were probably 500 + people walking by in front of the house. People I had met from all over the area. Many stopped to greet me.

I wanted to video the seemingly never-ending line but I was concerned about being disrespectful so I took a couple of photos from inside. I hope you can get an idea of what I was seeing,

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Funeral Procession
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Funeral procession

Malawi Journal – Day 8 – Our Return to Milala

Milala Visit 2019

In September of 2019, we visited Milala as a possible sight for our Rutherford County Walk for Water Well. Our son Gabriel made a wonderful video of the community, the people, and the source of water. We carried their story home with us and shared it with many of you.

Milala 2021

Yes, their dream of a close water source became a reality in 2019 and an Agriculture workshop too! Thank you  Healing Hands International, Smyrna Church of Christ and the Rutherford County Walk for Water 2019 for providing this well to the Milala community!

When we arrive we are greeted by many villagers. We gather in the building and hear speeches of welcome and then the history. Elders of the village and local officials are hear to show appreciation for this life-changing gift and to share the it’s impact.

Ruth Orr

The leaders tell the story of Ruth Orr coming to visit. When Ruth came the church was meeting under a tree. Ruth helped them with the funds to build a church building. We met the man who donated the property. They spoke with heartfelt thanks for the gifts they have been given. These gifts improve their community, their health, and their lives.

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District Leader Kefase speaks

They take us to the well. It is so rewarding to visit and see the well first hand and gardens. As we hear their stories of how improved their lives are and how thankful they are, we rejoice with them. This is our first time to have met the people who received a well we helped raise money for!

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Village elder Sebastian takes us to the well
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Milala well

The Agriculture workshop gave them new skills to improve their crop yields and therefore improve their lives. They were able to use money from their first crop to help the church in Milala. They have high hopes!

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Reda and the oldest villager

Cecilia

We say goodbye to Milala and travel to Mzimba. Our car needs some repair. Wanangwa, Esther and I do some shopping while the car is at the mechanic. We meet up with Cecilia one of our students from 2018 who is a prison guard. She also helps to teach the women inmates. It is a joyous reunion,

Lunch at the Take-Out

We eat lunch at a local take-out and visit with our friends. After lunch Lawrence waits at the restaurant while we finish our shopping.

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Lunch and visit at the take-out
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Preacher Washington Mumba we met in 2018

Esther finds a beautiful piece of material for a dress and a black skirt. I purchase mosquito nets and water. We go back to the restaurant to wait and I realize my mosquito nets are missing. Retracing our steps we find the shop keeper has held the nets for us! I am happy. We head back once again to the restaurant and find the car is still not ready.

Mbwenu decides he will wait with the car while Bless will transport us home. We ride with three other passengers who question us about staying in the village. They wanted to know if we find it hard. It certainly is not what we are accustomed to at home, but I am loving it all the same. I have never experienced any greater hospitality and I have certainly experienced some great hospitality. I am thrilled to be a part of such a Christian community all over the world I am just at home!

Esther, Lawrence and I take on the task of doing our laundry by hand. Soon it is on the line and drying. After a while a rainstorm blows in and we make a mad dash to retrieve the laundry and drape it all over the house.

In the evening Mbwenu and I talk about childbirth practices and the maternal mortality rate in Malawi. I would love to do something to improve this situation. I feel so helpless at times.

We have had a very full day, a wonderful day!

 

 

Malawi Journal – Day 7 – Our First Sunday

Our First Sunday at Tombolombo

Today is a very exciting day. This is our first Sunday with the Tombolombo church. Because of the heavy rains service is a bit later than usual. Today is a special Sunday because several of the area churches will be with us today.

Tombolombo Church has been central to the church in this area and helped to train preachers and start area churches. They have made it a practice to assemble together about once a month.

When we arrive Bible class is in progress. The children head outside for class and the youth stay with the adults. After class, we get ready for our regular assembly. Esther and I are sitting with the ladies and soon they call for us to come and sit with Lawrence upfront. We would rather blend in with the other ladies but alas we move near the front.

Communion

We have announcements and there is a chalkboard with the order and who will lead each part. The beautiful singing begins which always thrills me. Lawrence is preaching! Then we have communion which is about the same length as Lawrence’s lesson on I John. Today the church is using the new communion set. The bread looks like small marble shapes. Did the bakery ladies make it? I’m not sure but I think it is clever. For the juice, we use soaked raisins.

Welcoming After Church

After we conclude the service there is an official welcome for us with speeches. One of the leaders mentions that we have brought gifts for everyone. I get nervous, then he explains it is the communion set. I feel relieved.

Group Photo

They announced for us to all go outside for a group photo. After the photo, I saw Lawrence sitting on a bench studying the Bible with someone. I prayed with an elderly lady who has a hurt knee. The church is helping her get the medical attention she needs.

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Group Photo
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Group Photo

Glory

While we were outside I turn around to see Glory, one of the tutorial teachers. I first met her in 2018. Last year we brought her school supplies and soccer balls and snacks the first year. We ran into her at the market yesterday and were thrilled to see her at church this morning. She brought us fresh corn from her garden.

Potluck Malawi Style

Soon we were called to eat. The custom is to serve us separately. I would like to understand this better. I would prefer to be served with everyone else. The food was good and then we had more visiting.

Esther is Playing Games with the Kids

Esther was playing games with the kids. She was doing duck, duck, goose when I saw her. She stayed with the youth to play some other games and a group of young people walked her home later. Then they took her to visit some neighbors.

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Esther playing with the kids

Our host Mbwenu has not been feeling well. He has the symptoms of malaria with headache and joint pain. I was thankful I brought extra bottles of Ibuprofen to share. Something I take for granted. The pain reliever gave him a little relief.  He and his wife make a trip this afternoon to the health clinic. It is not malaria but the doctors are able to help him. They gave him two shots and some oral antibiotics. We hope he will be feeling better soon.

 

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Glory gives me corn she grew!
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Lawrence and one of the brothers at the church.

Malawi Journal-Day 2-Luggage, Security, Addis Ababa

Malawi Journal – Day 2 – Luggage, Security, Addis Ababa

Leaving Washington, D.C. at 10 a.m. meant getting up at 6 and catching the shuttle back to Dulles International Airport with all of our luggage.

Luggage

Our luggage includes 5 – 50 lb. bags besides our 3 carry-on bags and backpacks. To most people, this looks extreme and it feels extreme to me at times. Would I ever do this for a personal trip? No! I can usually pack in a backpack or certainly not more than a carry on for a two-week trip.

Why so much luggage? Malawi is one of the poorest countries on earth. We carry hygiene bags, sewing kits, baby blankets and hats, ibuprofen, books, school supplies, communion trays, and cups, Bibles, teaching materials, and so much more!

Ethiopian Airlines is one of my favorites and they have a friendly spirit and attitude of service. We find out we can check one of our carry-on bags so that frees us up a bit. They go over our paperwork thoroughly. Covid test results, passports, etc. Now we are ready for security. At least we thought we were ready for security.

Security

This morning security is not very busy so there is numerous extra staff on hand. I am not sure what they were preparing for but I was not prepared. They cleared us and our backpacks but pulled both of our carry-on bags to go through X-ray multiple times. Then they opened each one and went through all the items. Opened a new package of Bibles and scanned each one as well as the children’s books I was carrying. I found out they were scanning everything for explosives. Eventually, they finish and give me the mess to put back together. I think they should have to repack after the mess they made, but I don’t say so.

Afterward, I find out that the supervisors were present so they were trying to look busy…. 30 minutes later I am on my way to the gate. As we leave the security checkpoint we hear the signals going off and the officers saying shut down all security stations. We were thankful to be through before they shut it down and walked away quickly to avoid being caught up in the excitement.

We arrive at the gate which is across from Wendy’s so we grabbed a breakfast sandwich and soon boarded our plane to Addis Ababa, Ethiopia, our longest flight over 13 hours.

Onboard we were able to spread out because there were a lot of empty seats. I had three seats to myself. Plenty of room for a nice nap or two during such a long flight. The long flight went by quickly. The flight attendants kept us busy feeding us snacks and meals. There were many movies to choose from, even though it is not usually my thing. I did watch Abraham Lincoln.

Soon we set foot in Ethiopia.

Day 2 complete.

Malawi Journal – The Journey Day 1

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I hope to journal as often as I can as we live out our two-month stay in Malawi. I will upload my journal when I have wifi. This means our journal entries will be delayed a few days.

A different kind of trip.

This trip will be a different kind of trip for us. Lawrence, Esther, and I have all been to Malawi before but not to this area. This time we are going to a new area and living the village life.

Up early dressing and checking last-minute details. Josiah and the grands arrive and Gabriel next. They help us load the bags and with last hugs, we are off to the Nashville airport.

The boys help us get our bags inside the airport and Jonas stays with us in case we need anything. Thank you, Jonas! Soon we are through check-in and headed through security and to the gate.

Masks

Being masked certainly changes the dynamics of this trip. For one thing, I have only worn a mask for two hours at a time. I don’t like it but I try not to complain under the circumstances. Our longest flight is almost 14 hours and will require a mask. I miss those smiling faces. So communication is different as well as the discomfort and anxiety caused by wearing a mask for hours!

We board for our first leg of our journey, the short flight to Washington Dulles International Airport. Our flight goes well and soon we are landing, Upon arrival, we find out that we have to collect all our luggage for the night! We ponder this news for a while and decide we will stay at the motel across the street.

All five 50 lb. bags are loaded onto the shuttle and our carry-on bags as well. A few minutes later they are stored for the night and we are checked in. Because of Covid, they are only doing take-out meals so we order and soon eat dinner and read the Bible, and head to bed.

Day 1 of our 38-hour journey is complete.

 

Merry Merry Christmas to You!

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Merry Merry Christmas to you! As we near the end of the year and look back you no doubt will have some strong memories. Tomorrow is Christmas. My wish for you is that you will have joy, peace, and gratitude as you head into the new year. That’s what we all wish for, right? Well, at least the joy and peace part. Sometimes we just want to have our own little pity party and rehearse all the bad things which have happened to us. Say NO to that!

You are so blessed

Yes, this year has been a doozy! But look closely at your life and see all the fantastic and beautiful things that have happened amidst the struggles. Please remember those things. Choose to celebrate the blessings instead of the struggles at least for one day. I do not know your circumstance but I do know that you are so blessed. Refuse to give in to the negative. Make your day full of joy and gratitude. You will feel better and so will everyone else you share space with.

A tiny list of my blessings

God is my Father!

Unlimited supply of clean safe water.

Food.

Two legs.

Ability to speak.

I have two eyes and I can see.

I have an amazing family. Yes, both physical and spiritual!

My husband’s health has improved this year.

A new grandson this year.

There are thousands of things that I could add to this list but this is just a tiny list so I will stop there. Why don’t you make your own tiny list?

Thank You!

I want to thank you for reading my blog this year. You have brought me joy in so many tiny and big ways. Your words of encouragement have lifted me up! Have a beautiful Christmas and a Happy New Year.

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Putting More Joy in Your Christmas

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Putting more joy in your Christmas

What Christmas traditions do you have that do not require spending money? Or buying gifts? Can you really have a Christmas without things? I personally do not know. I have lived most of my life in the land of plenty. But traveling to some of the poorest countries in the world really has had an impact on my perspective. There are many places and people in the world who never even question what they will buy for Christmas. Yet they are full of joy at the approach of Christmas.

What do you do when you have little or no money to create a big Christmas? One friend told me that you make the celebration bigger. Homemade decorations maybe, Christmas movies together, hot cocoa or popcorn.

Maybe this year you have chosen to keep Christmas simple for many reasons or just want to add some simpler touches.

Childhood Memories

So ask yourself what memories do you have from childhood? What was fun? Compare Christmas from your childhood with what Christmas looks like now. If you have children at home maybe you can share stories of your childhood Christmas. Most kids love stories. Get the grandparents involved with sharing their stories of childhood Christmas past.

What do you wish for? Personally, I think the gift of time is the best.

Here are a few suggestions for putting more joy in your Christmas

Play charades

Caroling to your neighbors or with them

Lego building contest

Flash mob of Christmas songs

Gingerbread men or houses or Graham Cracker houses

Bake sugar cookies and decorate them.

Make ornaments

Paper chains even the youngest children enjoy doing this.

Have friends or family over just to enjoy time (no gifts allowed) calm, lowkey day, sing songs, put together a puzzle, play a game. Eat soup maybe Andalusian Christmas Soup but keep it simple.

Making gifts for each other from things you have on hand – give a favorite book you’ve read, with your own review or some unknown tidbit about the author. Maybe you have a teacup to share.

Make coupons for backrubs, no chores pass, clean out your car, etc.

Giving something from your wealth of possessions to friends and family.

Write a poem or story for a specific person.

Give extra blankets, coats, gloves, etc. to those in the cold.

Perhaps you will want to purchase a “doing gift” for your family. An experience. This can be a lot of fun but may require some scheduling.

I know that many of you have some great ideas to share. Please do share below!

 

25 Ways You Can Teach Your Children to Serve Others

25 ways to teach your children to serve others. Why 25? I’m not sure just a good number I guess. I am sure the list could be even longer. But first I want to talk about why for just a few minutes.

Service begins at home.

Service should begin at home. Your children can make a very important contribution to the running of your home. Children can and should help out. Here are a few reasons. They gain valuable life skills and confidence when they know how to do basic jobs around the house. The world does not revolve around them. Why should someone else clean up all of their messes? Being part of the family team brings you all closer. Enjoy chatting while doing the dishes together. Set a timer for 10 minutes and have the whole team do a quick evening pick up. This will be a time of joy and fun as you serve one another.

Serving outside of your home.

Why serve outside of your home? We live in a self-focused world. Do you know how important it is to see the needs of others and to learn to help? There are a lot of blind people in the world. I am not talking about physical blindness. Children come into the world with no concern for others. Service is something you can nurture in your children by helping them to see and supply the needs of others. You can make a big difference in the world by serving one person. It is rewarding for those who serve as well as those who are served.

Here is my list of 25+ ways you can teach your children to serve others. 

  1. Visit an elderly person and sit on their porch and ask them to tell you about some aspect of their life. Pick up sticks or rake their leaves.
  2. Color a picture and send it to someone in the nursing home or hospital.
  3. Do you work on jigsaw puzzles? Pass it along after you work it. I recently left one of mine with homemade cookies at the desk of a nursing home for a friend of mine. Visits are not allowed. He called me later and said he hadn’t done one in years and really enjoyed it. He has mentioned it since then too.
  4. Pick up trash in your neighborhood. This will help them also be conscious of littering.
  5. Collect all your coins for a set period of time and donate it to a good cause like hhi.org/walk4water/smyrna-tn-2020. Ask others to share with you. You will be surprised at how many coins you can gather in a short time and make a lifelong gift of clean water. The gift of life!
  6. If you sew or have a teenage girl. you might want to help her make sanitary pads for girls in other countries. Many girls must miss a week of school every month. These girls may only have mud or grass to use. If you need a pattern check here:
  7. Do you have an elderly neighbor? Maybe you take their trash can to the street for them every week or once.
  8. Let your children help you make dinner for someone who is ill, had a new baby, or surgery. Even if you have to door drop during this season it will create a lasting memory of serving someone else.
  9. Have an elderly friend who loves to sing? Take a few people and have a short sing along with them. Ask their favorite songs. What song was a new song for them when they were younger?
  10. Do something nice for a single mom or maybe volunteer to babysit one afternoon while she has an afternoon off. Make this a family event.
  11. Volunteer at a workday. Widows, camps, spring building clean up or community clean up projects.  Make sure they are involved with many age groups. They learn so much this way.
  12. Every year there are floods, tornados, tropical storms, or other disasters and you can participate in some way in the recovery efforts. Cooking, donating, actual clean up, etc.
  13. Attend a Habitat for Humanity presentation. You will find several ways to serve. If your kids are too young they can make sandwiches to feed the workers.
  14. Make hygiene bags for the homeless, battered women’s shelters, etc.
  15. Pack snack bags and/or small throws and keep in your car to give to the homeless.
  16. Take a flat of water with you and give out on a hot day. Laundromats are good places.
  17. Encourage them to be the one who meets the new people and visitors at church. Maybe invite them over for a play date and share beforehand how they might feel moving to a new area or visiting a church for the first time.
  18. When allowed visit the nursing homes. Just your presence brings so much joy.
  19. Decorate a door. One year we chose one person in the nursing home and decorated their door for different holidays.  Spread happiness.
  20. Have a free yard sale.
  21. Take your children to be the first to meet the new neighbors with a plate of cookies perhaps.
  22. Hug patrol. Many elderly people miss physical touch. Especially widows. If you are concerned about hugs then encourage your children to pick out one older person at church each Sunday and go speak to them or hug them before they sit down. See my article about a single hug.
  23. Serve dinner at the local homeless shelter.
  24. Take goodies and thank you notes to the local Police Station or Firehouse.
  25. Collect throws and blankets from your stash and share them with those in need. I put these in a ziplock bag and give it to my favorite police officer who keeps them on hand to give out as needed. Maybe have your child write a short note or small picture on an index card to include.
  26. Make Magi boxes.
  27. Write cards to the sick in your congregation or visitors, etc.
  28. Pick up the phone and call someone who might be lonely.
  29. Healing Hands International is in my area and has volunteer opportunities. Many nonprofits are looking for volunteers.
  30. Read books to a daycare or school classroom. Dr. Seuss’s day is a good day to do so.
  31. A few years ago I heard Earl Lavender say, “Hospitality can change the world”. Make it a practice. Remember to keep it simple so that you can all enjoy it.
  32. Make care packages for the military or a college student.
  33. Go on a mission trip with your teens.
  34. Make a game of doing good deeds in secret.

A few more than 25. I hope this list will be a spark. Please comment below with your favorite ideas and experiences. Let’s spread some sunshine!

The Story of a Single Hug and It’s Importance

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Hug your grandmother today!

Sunday Morning Rush

The story of a single hug and it’s importance. You may not know how powerful and important a single hug can be. Today I want to share with you a little story of a single hug and it’s importance. Here is my story.

Rushing around I make sure everyone is getting ready to go. We wake up early to get everyone ready for church. I hate being late so I try to prepare as much as I can the night before. The kids choose their clothes the night before including shoes which you know can disappear at a moment’s notice. Missing shoes (or keys) can send my attitude into a downward spiral and make everyone miserable. I try to avoid that!  Anyway, back to the story.

Breakfast in the Van

We are rushing around dressing children and getting shoes on and hair brushed. This can take a bit of doing when you have 8 or 9 or 11 children. The van is full of children and I count to make sure we haven’t missed anyone. On Sunday mornings we skip breakfast and eat Little Debbie granola bars in the van on the way to the church building. We arrive a few minutes early and I remind the little ones to use the restroom BEFORE church. The children make their rounds greeting everyone but especially the older ladies. Grandma Lark is a favorite. She is a tiny little lady with a big smile and a happy personality.

A Single Hug

While the kids are passing out hugs and giving smiles, I stop and talk with Goldie, a widow, about her week. “Everyone needs 5 hugs a day”, I tell her as I give her a hug. Her next words stay with me forever. That’s the first hug I’ve had since my husband died. This breaks my heart and stays in my mind for years. I am sure she is not the only one. I give out more hugs now.

Research of Touch

Dr. Tiffany Field has researched physical touch for four decades and has concluded that touch promotes better health, mental and physical. She saw an increase in the natural killer cells that kill viral and bacteria cells in those with more physical touch. The study also found children are physically and verbally stronger and less aggressive when they have the physical touch. Even premature babies gain weight better and go home earlier when they have the physical touch. Physical touch is healing.

From the time we are in the womb through our elderly years, touch plays a primary role in our development and physical and mental well-being. New studies on touch continue to show the importance of physical contact in early development, communication, personal relationships, and fighting disease. Dr. Tiffany Field

Human touch is so vital to our well being. The practice of sharing a smile and a hug will enrich your life! Covid 19 has put a damper on this for sure. Instead of mourning one more thing we have lost I challenge you to put down your phone and computer and give attention to those in your path. Smile, pat a shoulder and for sure hug those in your house for the health of it, for the joy of it, and the love of it.

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For further study:

Read this good article about Why Physical Touch Matters by following the link below.

https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/why_physical_touch_matters_for_your_well_being

Do you have a WELCOME sign?

Do you have a welcome sign?

Welcome Signs

Do you have a Welcome sign? One of those cute new fads the porch leaner that has WELCOME on it maybe a sunflower or some other cute decoration. Do you have scripture printed on cute little plaques on your porch or scripture stones in your garden?

I’ve seen these popping up all over my neighborhood and I have begun to notice them more everywhere I go. What does it mean to you? What does WELCOME really mean? Is it just a cute decoration? A nice sign to put on your porch or is it something from your heart? Who are you welcoming to your home? Friends? Family? What about strangers? Lost people? What about door to door salesman? What about Census workers? How far does your WELCOME extend?

Can you spare any kindness today? Does your response to the unexpected knock at your door show the kind of person you are? When you hear a knock do you immediately assume it is an unwelcome intrusion you don’t want to be bothered with? Or do you open the door with a smile? Regardless of who knocks at your door, you can give them a friendly greeting. It might make a bigger difference in the world than you can imagine.

Scripture and Yard Signs

Do you have one of those JESUS the Way, the Truth, the Life yard signs? Or scripture plaques? Are they meant to be a reflection of your heart? Is this a true message you are hoping to share with the world?  When I approach a door and see Jesus signs, scriptures, or a welcome sign I make some assumptions. My first thought is someone believes in Jesus! I expect a friendly response from a house that has such a display. Instead, it seems people have forgotten what they are displaying in front of their houses.

Your Response

I have been admiring these signs for a while but after noticing the response of people it made me pause and consider. Am I am ready to display a WELCOME by my door?  How do my responses reflect my true heart?

It really doesn’t matter why someone is at your door you still have an opportunity to be a blessing right from your own front porch. Regardless of your interest in what the person is there for you can respond in a kind way. You will feel better and they will too. Kindness and smiles are never wasted.

Do you have a WELCOME sign?
Do you have a WELCOME sign?

My friend Lori Morse Winslow has a beautiful heart and she can help you make some beautiful items and this is just one of them! Check them out here.