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Take Your Children to the Grocery Store

Many people go to great lengths to avoid taking their children to the grocery store. You may think I have lost my mind when I say that I think you SHOULD take your children to the grocery store and that I think you should start while they are very young. This doesn’t mean I think you should never shop alone but I feel I have some very good reasons for you to take them.

First, let me deal with your objections.

You do not know how my children behave. Your children really are not that different than most other kids. I have taken many children to the grocery store. I have witnessed many children in the grocery store. I have worked in a grocery store and seen the daily behavior of parents and children. I have seen children it would be a joy to shop with and children that would be every parent’s nightmare to take shopping. So I have witnessed many behaviors. So I probably have a little bit of an idea.

I spend more money when I take my children. Maybe you do. Is that really your children’s fault? Are you reinforcing bad behaviors? Are you in charge of this mission or are they? Do they control your behavior?

It takes me more time to shop when I take my children. This may very well be true at the beginning. It doesn’t have to always be this way though. Soon it will save you more time, money, and make your life a whole lot easier. Soon you may have teenagers who can take your shopping list and shop for you because they will know how! It is worth the sacrifice! Learn to enjoy this time with your children!

Maybe you have a choice to take your children or not. I didn’t have a choice for many years. My husband worked long days.  It wasn’t easy. There were times my children filled the cart and it didn’t leave me much room to add the food! Or I would get stopped so often by curious people to tell me how cute my children were, or to ask, “are they all yours?” It isn’t easy but teaching them to help and to obey makes it a whole lot easier. Soon though I had built in babysitters which will happen eventually to all moms who have 11 children.  I actually had a choice. I quit taking my younger children to the store with me. One day I realized they really had not been trained to behave properly in the grocery store or taught how to do smart shopping.  I had to change my behavior! Sometimes I would take just one and enjoy some one on one time with them. Other times I would take them all! By this time each one could take a part of the list and go and get the needed items. We needed at least two shopping carts anyway!

I would like to share some of my thoughts about taking your children to the grocery store.

Training 

The grocery store is a great training ground. If you have previously had bad experiences in taking your children to the grocery store then plan more time for this shopping trip and maybe the next few trips. You are going to invest in the future of your children and in your own future. Before you go into the grocery store get your shopping list ready (If your children are usually really out of control then take a short list!).

Before you go in the store tell your children what behavior you expect. Do you know what you expect? If not think about it. I expect my children to listen to me, to walk beside me or ride in the cart if they are younger. I expect them to help if possible. They can help by reading the list or getting three cans of tomatoes. Most children like to help. I do not allow them to ask for things unless I ask their opinion about which item we should buy. I do not allow them to run. I do not allow them to scream or raise their voices. I do not allow them to demand anything! They may ask questions and carry on a conversation.  If you’ve had bad experiences you may feel a little apprehension but act with complete confidence. Do not threaten your children. Do not tell them some great and wonderful thing you will do for them IF they behave. Do not take toys or electronics to entertain your children. They will listen and behave better if you leave those behind.

If your list is on your phone use it for that. On this occasion, however, do not answer calls or texts while you are shopping. Give your focus to your mission and your children. Many times if we are on the phone we get so distracted that we forget what we have come for and take a lot longer to shop or we let our children get totally out of control. So turn off your ringer and interact with your children.

If your children grumble and complain while you are shopping or doing errands ask them to stop.  If they continue to complain, scream, or in some way act up you may have to remove them from the store and discipline them in the car or take them home if necessary. Or come up with a strategy to enforce at the appropriate time depending on how badly this is going. You must win this battle. Perhaps there is a favorite toy they will want to play with later or a favorite game or movie or a friend they want to visit.  Something they DO care about, maybe more than obeying you at the moment. When the subject comes up or they run asking if they can play, visit, watch that movie, etc. tell them NO. Let them know this is because of their behavior and stick with your decision. Do not give in to the temptation to reward them for promising to behave next time. You probably have an idea of what discipline will work best. Whether it is spanking, taking away privileges, or giving chores, etc. If you do not know what will work best then watch your child and think about what will work best.

You have a very important lesson to teach perhaps one of the most important in their young childhood. They must learn to obey! If they do not obey, there are consequences. I was told by a very wise lady to “take great pains with your children while they are young and you won’t have much trouble when they are older.” I believe most children will need spanking at some point in their early years. They do not understand reasoning when they are very young. You cannot explain and reason well enough to keep a two-year-old from running in the parking lot or running in front of moving cars. Physical pain is the best teacher in some circumstances. They need to learn early to obey and that there are consequences when we do not obey. There will always be rules and there are reasons for those rules. Plan to stick with your mission. Your mission is to train your children to obey you in the grocery store and anywhere else you take them and get your grocery shopping done.

Education

Not only will this be behavior training but it will teach your children life skills. Grocery shopping is a very basic skill. Most of us eat at least 3 meals a day. Teach your children the cost of food, the value of food and how to select food. You can also use it for math lessons. You can let your children weigh the vegetables and calculate the cost. Your children will be surprised at the cost of food. Teach your children how to compare shop. What is cheapest by the package? What is cheapest by the ounce? This will save your children money down the road. Teach them how to read labels and why to read labels. This will teach them nutrition. There are so many things they can learn in the grocery store.

Other Benefits

You meet all kinds of people in the grocery store. Older, younger, rich, poor, etc. Kids find people interesting. And people especially older people enjoy seeing children out doing everyday things. Being enjoyed by others is esteem boosting. Learning to obey your parents and behave will also have inner rewards for your children. Once they learn to behave they may be appalled at the behavior of other children. It is humiliating for the parents and the children and others who witness misbehaving children. Young children will feel secure knowing they are not in charge.

A trip to the grocery store can open a world of opportunities. Your children will help you and learn to help others.

I would love to hear your comments.

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18 Midwives and Potato Bread

What do 18 midwives and potato bread have in common? Stay with me now.

Through my childbearing years, I had at least 18 midwives. There are many reasons I chose to have my children with midwives. The main one is that I believe childbirth is a natural process and not an illness. I appreciate the respect that midwives bring to their profession as well as to their patients.

There is no way that I could have had any better care. My midwives gave me personal and professional care. I have had Certified Nurse Midwives, Licensed Midwives, and Professional Midwives (some call lay midwives). My husband also delivered 4 of our children.

Three of our children were born in freestanding birth centers, seven at home, and one in the hospital. My children have weighed from 8 lbs. 5oz  to 10 lbs. 4 oz. My children were born in West Virginia, Oregon, Washington, and Oklahoma. So there you have the stats! I have been blessed tremendously to have 11 healthy children. I praise God for the blessing of being called mom!

Seattle Home Maternity

So what do midwifery and food have in common? More than you think! Midwives encourage good nutrition but that is not the connection. In 1986 I had two wonderful midwives in Seattle, Washington, Suzy, and Marge, founders of Seattle Midwifery School and Seattle Home Maternity. They were so warm and welcoming when I came for my appointments.

On at least one occasion, they fixed me a cup of hot tea and gave a slice of onion potato bread. This was such a hospitable and lovely thing that it has long stayed in my memory even though it was 30 years ago. After trying for years to recreate that bread and I finally have something I think resembles that wonderful bread. Below I want to share that recipe with you.

Onion Potato Bread
Onion Potato Bread

Using my Charlie starter found here:  http://www.redaredding.com/making-sourdough-starter/

Potato Onion Herb Bread

Charlie starter 1 cup

1/4 cup sugar

1/2 cup of vegetable oil

1 ½ teaspoon salt

1 ½ cups of warm water

6 cups of flour  2 whole wheat, 4 all-purpose unbleached

1 cup potato flakes

1/2 teaspoon black pepper

1/2 teaspoon onion powder

1/2 thyme powder

1 teaspoon Italian seasoning

1 cup of finely chopped onions

Mix the first 5 ingredients in a large bowl and as you start to add the flour mix in the herbs and seasonings. Add the chopped onions last. On a floured surface knead your dough a bit until it is not sticky and it feels springy.  Shape into two loaves. I like round ones even though they do not rise high. Let them rise on an oiled baking sheet or loaf pan, oil the tops of the dough.

The rising will take several hours. Possibly 3-4+ hours it can vary. Your dough will not completely double. You might want to let it rise in your oven or on your stovetop free from drafts. I leave mine uncovered. Bake 350° for 30-35 minutes and test for doneness. I will be honest I have baked for so long I can smell when most things are about done. I still set the timer and check on it after about 30 minutes. You can also use the thermometer. When your bread is done it will be golden brown and reach 190° in the center. Thumping it will produce a sort of hollow sound. This makes two round loaves.

This bread takes a while but it is so worth waiting for!

Thanks for reading my story!

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Making Sourdough Starter, Charlie is his name!

Welcome to the adventure of sourdough baking!

I would like to say from the start that this is not one of my quick fifteen minute recipes but one I enjoy tremendously and puts me in touch with roots.

Several years ago my family spent an amazing weekend in Hacker Valley, West Virginia with an amazing lady we call Nanny Pugh. She is a gracious hostess and I learned so much from spending that weekend with her on her farm way out in the hills of West Virginia. While there she made some wonderful bread for us as well as a lot of fresh food from her garden! She taught me to make “Charlie” and how to feed him and make bread with him. I am going to share that recipe with you today. First I will share the starter recipe and then a scrumptious bread recipe.

Charlie Sourdough Starter

To make your starter…

3 packages of yeast or 3 Tablespoons

1/2 cup warm water 105°-115°

1 cup warm water

2/3 cup sugar

3 Tablespoons of instant potato flakes

Dissolve yeast in 1/2 cup of warm water (105°-115°)  and then “feed” it with 1 cup of warm water, 2/3 cup sugar, and 3 Tablespoons of potato flakes

Let this mixture set out all day then refrigerate it for 2-5 days. Take it out and feed it again with the same ingredients: warm water, 2/3 cup sugar, and 3 Tablespoons of potato flakes. Let it set out all day or all night. Now remove 1 cup of the starter and maker your first Charlie bread or shape it into rolls.

Charlie Bread Recipe

1 cup of Charlie starter

1/4 cup sugar

1/2 cup vegetable oil

1 ½ teaspoons salt

1 ½ cups warm water

6 cups flour

So take your starter and mix it with the sugar, oil, salt and warm water and then I add 6 cups of flour ( I usually use 4 cups unbleached and 2 cups whole wheat). Mix well and then pour the mixture into a greased bowl and don’t forget to oil the top of the dough or it will be a bit tough (don’t ask how I know this) and let it set out all night covered with a clean cloth. Divide the dough into two parts and knead it a bit, maybe 10 times at most, on a floured surface. Put each part into a greased pan. I like to shape some of mine into round loaves and some regular loaves. Brush lightly with oil and let rise on the counter top uncovered (or lightly covered with plastic wrap if you must) for 7-8 hours (mine doesn’t always take that long) or until it has risen and ready to bake. Bake 325° for 45 minutes. Remove from the oven and brush with butter. Within 10 minutes remove the bread from the pan to prevent sweating. Place on a cooling rack.

Helpful hints:

Let Charlie breathe. Keep him in a plastic bowl with holes punched in the lid or covered with plastic wrap with holes. Do not put anything on top of it or Charlie will die.

Do not stir with a metal spoon. Use wood or plastic.

If your starter gets too full or you want to share, pour out 1 cup of Charlie into another plastic bowl. Feed both Charlies on the same day and pass one on to your friend. At least 1 to 2 cups of Charlie must be kept in order to keep him alive.

Bread can be baked any day as long as 1 cup of Charlie has been allowed to set at room temperature for 8 hours before mixing.

To see my original article I wrote about my visit to Hacker Valley, West Virginia visit my reddingmountain.com blog

April 17, 2017 UPDATE: I cheated and this is the result! On Sunday morning early I wanted to make some rolls. I decided to take “Charlie” from the fridge and feed him.  I then took one cup full of Charlie and mixed up rolls and shaped them. I put them in the pan and let them rise while I was at church. When I came home I could tell they were ready to bake so I baked them and they were great! So if you need to speed up the process this might work for you!

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Swedish Tea Ring

Our friend Janelle has been here visiting for about a week. Today was our last day with Janelle! I wanted to make a special brunch to have with her before her flight. I made cheesy grits, fried potatoes, bacon, oven scrambled eggs and my Swedish Tea Ring. I have made this recipe for more than 20 years. It is my favorite sweet yeast dough! It is light and tender. Here is my recipe made without my favorite rolling pin and baking sheet. I can improvise!

 

Swedish Tea Ring

1 cup milk

1/4 cup butter

1/2 cup sugar

1 teaspoon salt

2 Tablespoons yeast or 2 small packages

1/4 cup lukewarm water

2 eggs

4 1/2 cups all-purpose sifted flour ( I use unbleached)

Melted butter

1/2 lb. brown sugar 

1 Tablespoon + Cinnamon ( I like a lot of cinnamon so I keep adding)

Chopped nuts optional

You may add frosting if you wish. (Recipe below)

Preheat the oven 375°. Scald milk and pour over butter, sugar, and salt, sprinkle yeast over the lukewarm water. Cool milk to lukewarm (less than 110°), add to the yeast mixture. Add well-beaten eggs. Beat in flour to make a soft dough. Turn out on a floured board and knead until smooth. Form into ball and place in a greased bowl. Cover and let rise until double in bulk. Time can vary, it took mine an hour to rise.  When light shape into 2 rectangular sheets about 1/4 inch thick. I mix the cinnamon and brown sugar in a small bowl. I brush the rolled out dough with the melted butter and sprinkle with the cinnamon brown sugar mixture. Roll in jelly roll fashion and shape into rings. Place on greased cookie sheets and cut with scissors at 1” intervals almost through your ring.

You may want to turn your cut slices slightly to make a fancier ring. Cover and let rise until double in bulk. Bake at 375° F for 20-30 minutes. Enjoy. Variations: While warm, frost with powdered sugar frosting and sprinkle with chopped nuts.  This makes 2 rings. I think this is the most wonderful thing I bake!

This frosting is great to drizzle on the Swedish tea ring,  cinnamon rolls or other pastries.

Simple Frosting for Pastries

2 Tablespoons of melted butter

2 cups powdered sugar

the flavoring of your choice: vanilla, almond, etc.

1-3 Tablespoons of milk added one at a time until you reach the right consistency.

Melt the butter stir in the powdered sugar and flavoring and 1 Tablespoon of the milk. Stir until creamy. Add more milk a bit at a time until you reach drizzle consistency.  Yummy!

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Sunday Dinner

Do you remember Sunday dinners? Grandmother’s iron skillet and her home cooking perhaps? Your mom’s cooking? I have memories of meals at my grandmother’s house. My grandmother baked biscuits and cakes in an iron skillet! There was always a lot of food! I remember my mom and her sisters cooking together making homemade chicken pot pies for the freezer, homemade sausage, sauerkraut, and sometimes holiday meals. Home cooking whether it was simple or elaborate was celebrated and a part of every day!

Sometimes a smell can transport me to another time and place. Many memories are formed as we do normal everyday things. Or at least what used to be normal. Sharing in the necessary processes of life creates memories. Whether that is folding laundry together, snapping beans, cooking dinner together, doing dishes, canning, quilting, grocery shopping, clipping coupons, etc. There are many everyday tasks that need to be done and they are so much more fun when done together.

The last couple of years Americans have seen a change in the way we eat. In 2016 for the first time,  Americans spent more money eating out than on groceries and cooking and eating at home. Many things have contributed to this change from work schedules, extracurricular activities, rising costs of food and higher incomes.

There are several benefits to cooking and eating at home. It is healthier and more economical than other options. Eating out comes with a price tag! Restaurant food typically has more salt, saturated fat, calories and less fiber. It also costs more. Missing out on the experience of family mealtime is a big cost. I think it takes me more time to go out to eat than it does to get dinner on the table. With a little planning and some simple recipes, you can have dinner on the table in less than an hour. You can create a master shopping list and menu plan that will help you put together a healthy meal fast.

Whether you plan to eat at home or have last minute company to feed or get an unexpected snowfall in winter, having a plan to eat at home can be a blessing! I would like to encourage you to gather your family around the dinner table this week! Whether you just do Sunday dinner or one weeknight meal together, get started making memories with your family!

http://nymag.com/scienceofus/2016/06/americans-spend-more-on-restaurants-than-groceries.html

https://qz.com/706550/no-one-cooks-anymore/